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Resolution

Sitting here and watching my sister go to pieces because her boyfriend is off scouting schools in the States, I'm...sympathetic, but not at all pleased..

I never want to need anybody like that. Wanting is another matter. ;) But I don't want to have that consuming, dependent, "food has no savour and life has no meaning without you", unhealthy addiction-level need for anyone.

I want to be with someone because they make my life better, and I do the same for them, not because they are my life. Because I want them in my life, not because I need them there.

I don't know how easy that sort of thing will be to avoid - I might just be fooling myself.

But this is my resolution.

-D.

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opendestiny
Apr. 26th, 2005 04:19 am (UTC)
I too, hope I never get to that point of all consuming need. *hugs*
paleshadow
Apr. 26th, 2005 05:37 am (UTC)
*laughs and hugs* I'll watch you if you watch me?

-D.
opendestiny
Apr. 26th, 2005 05:41 am (UTC)
Deal. :)
funwithrage
Apr. 26th, 2005 05:27 am (UTC)
Oh, *word*. I find the concept of needing someone that much downright disturbing.


I find it's...not impossible. I've done the miserable, forcing-self-to-eat, generally blah thing after breakups, and it hurts...but it goes away in time. I think that's pretty much as good as you can get if you still get attached to people.
paleshadow
Apr. 26th, 2005 05:36 am (UTC)
Righty-o. Any attachment will hurt when it ends. It's only the scary ones that hurt during what should be routine separations. Why spend all that time in pain?

-D.
funwithrage
Apr. 26th, 2005 03:40 pm (UTC)
Exactly. I love my family and my friends and all, but I don't freak out every time I leave or return to school. Gah. And thanks re:icon. It's from fandom_wank.
paleshadow
Apr. 26th, 2005 05:44 am (UTC)
Also, I flat out adore your icon. Just thought I'd say. :)

-D.
rumor_esq
Apr. 26th, 2005 07:06 am (UTC)
Oy, don't worry. You're not the dependent, daddy's girl type.

Everybody loves differently.
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